Some of you may be familiar with the sensational Netflix show, Queer Eye. Well lucky for us, one of the stars of the show, Karamo Brown, has decided to write a tell-all memoir, titled KARAMO, about his experience on the show and has given some background on his own life, as well. Here are three lessons that we’ve learned from Karamo about life from his different experiences.
#1. On Faith….
As for me, religion wasn’t something that I dreaded—it was something I had fun with. I was in a household where God didn’t have a particular race or gender. My parents were very quick to interchange “he” and “she” when it came to God. That was key for me. Even though I would go to Lakewood and hear them refer to God only as male, in my mind, when I was praying, I would switch back and forth between male and female. My father would sometimes pray, “We ask God for her guidance . . .” So I’d think, Oh, today God’s a woman. I don’t know if he was even conscious of it, and then my mother picked up on it. Although Jesus is usually depicted as a white guy, I know that is someone’s interpretation. I never took that as reality, because that wasn’t how it was depicted in my household.
#2. On Love…
I came out at fifteen, although I don’t use the term “coming out.” I say “letting people in.” I think the term “coming out” gives other people the power to accept or deny people who identify as LGBTQ+ and takes the power away from those who should really own their power. Like my granny would say, “If they don’t want to come in my house, I’ll close the door and be happy in my own home.” That was clear with me, because if you don’t want to come into my life, that’s fine. The power of me loving and accepting myself is not determined by someone else’s opinion of me. I also realized that the term “coming out” puts unnecessary pressure on members of the LGBTQ+ community. We don’t need to let everyone in to every part of our lives. It doesn’t mean that we’re ashamed of who we are. It’s called “boundaries.” If we’re not close friends, you don’t need to know what I’m doing at home.
#3. On Pressure….
As I look back on my life, I see that all my addictions were caused by pressure. I escaped from the pressure of wanting friends and the need to be liked in high school by using weed. In college, I escaped from the pressure of doing well in school by using alcohol. I did the same thing with ecstasy and with cocaine. When I look back, I understand that I always want to use when I feel pressure and when I’m working my hardest. To this day, I still have to manage it.
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Excerpted from Karamo by Karamo Brown. Copyright © 2019 by author. Used by permission of the publisher. All rights reserved.
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