Staying positive can be hard sometimes. It’s up to you to rid your mind of negative thoughts and focus on the good things that you have in your life. Sarah Centrella, author of #FUTUREBOARDS, shares her 4 steps on how to remove your “unworthy” thoughts.
First, recognize the thought without emotional attachment.
When negative thoughts and fear arise bringing their entourage of stress and anxiety, the first step is to remove yourself emotionally from them. Look at the thought objectively. Ask yourself, “Does this thought serve me? Is it going to get me closer to living my dreams or is it here to keep me from them?” By doing this, you stop these thoughts in their tracks, removing their power
Second, decide if you want the thought to be true for you.
Every thought you think is subjective. It is up to you to add value, weight, and “truth” to it. It is your choice if you want to believe old thoughts or not. Just because you’ve thought or believed something your entire life, does not make it true. You can decide, right now, to debunk those thoughts if they no longer serve you. So look at it from an outsider’s perspective, and ask the question “Do I want this to be true, for me, moving forward?” If the answer is no, then stop accepting it as truth! Stop giving it value and weight.
Third, DO NOT engage!
The key to changing old beliefs is to not entertain them. Don’t allow an internal conversation to begin or continue, it will only take you down a rabbit hole. If you’ve asked the previous question if you want this thought to be true for you and the answer was no, then shut this thought down immediately! Do not give it air to breathe and grow. Do not argue with it. Do not give it validation or the time of day. You’ve decided it no longer serves you, so you are done!
Lastly, change the subject.
Our brains have the attention span of a two-year-old with ADHD, so this trick isn’t difficult to use. Just like a child might throw a tantrum when you take away his toy (like you not engaging in negative old thoughts), he can usually be appeased by replacing the old toy with a shiny new one (thoughts about your dreams). So immediately change the subject in your brain by thinking of your dream future life. Begin imagining a specific piece of that life, a part that you know will be easy and pleasurable to focus on for a few minutes. And just like a toddler, your brain will soon forget its tantrum and happily play with its new toy!
Want to learn more about changing your mindset? Check out #FUTUREBOARDS by Sarah Centrella!
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Excerpted from #FutureBoards by Sarah Centrella. Copyright © 2019 by the author. Used by permission of the publisher. All rights reserved.