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How to Get Your Children to Meditate

MotherChildPrayer_400Not long ago I came across a blog entry by Michelle Schoffro Cook called “Advice from an African Medicine Woman.” The piece suggested a way of healing the earth that entailed filling a bowl with water, praying over it, and releasing it back to the earth. Do this for 30 days, she said, and be open to the alchemy of it. This seemed like a manageable and easy way to do try to meditate with my kids. I was talking to my younger sister on the phone recently and she said that she thought raising happy children boils down to three things: sharing meals, playing, and meditating with them.

(“Meditating?!” I said. “Have you met my kids?”

“Maybe just saying grace before dinner is enough,” she said.)

I’d been writing a lot of letters to government officials about water—I love the ocean, which seems like such an incredible gift this planet’s been given, and I feel the same way about the lakes that define the area where I live with their moody blueness. Lately it seems like every time I turn around someone or something wants to drill in them, or put a gas storage facility underneath them. Or we just dump all of our plastic in them, making giant islands that nothing, not even the sea, can completely break down.

So I thought I’d try praying over a bowl with my kids. We went into the kitchen, chose some dusky blue bowls that once belonged to my grandmother, and filled them with water. We prayed for flow, for peace, for healing of the ocean.

“Now go outside and pour your water on something that’s alive,” I said.

“Can I pour it on the cat?” said my second grader.

“No,” I said.

“What if I see a snake?” he said. “Can I pour it on that?”

“No. Try the grass. Or a leaf.”

“This is heavy,” said my kindergartner, trying to carry his bowl.

“I know, sweetie,” I sighed. I know.

“It is kind of heavy,” I said later on the phone to my sister Emily, the one who suggested meditating with children in the first place.

“I think it’s great,” she said. “It’s good for your boys–it gives them a way to think about sending good intentions outside of themselves.”

Then we started talking about the rituals we’d done as kids—eaten together every night as a family, worked in the vegetable garden, fed the chickens in the morning. Cut wood every weekend.

“Of course, we all hated cutting wood,” my sister said.

“I didn’t mind cutting or hauling the wood,” I said. “It was thawing the water for the chickens in the winter before school that drove me crazy.”

But what those rituals did do was cultivate the seed that was already there: a love for being outside, for plants and animals, an appreciation for the natural world.

So we’ve kept at it—praying to our tap water and pouring it back into our yard. My older son is growing out of the ritual, but my younger one still loves it. He closes his eyes and leans forward, getting his mouth as close to the water as possible. “I love you,” he whispers, “I love you.”

“Heal,” he says. “Please heal.”


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