Your subconscious can be a great asset when it comes to figuring out how to maintain love and healthy relationships. Kimberly Friedmutter, author of SUBCONSCIOUS POWER, shares her tips for finding and keeping true love in an exclusive video! Plus, scroll down to read more of her advice!
#1. Get Real
If you want real love from another person, you have you get real with yourself first. Start with your truth teller: your subconscious! Ask yourself: what you really want from your partner (or a potential partner), and listen for what your subconscious tells you. Honesty really is the best policy. It brings clarity and transparency, which is greatly appreciated when navigating love relationships.
Express yourself to your partner It’s only fair to tell you partner what you need. Rather than getting upset at their lack of knowing, simply tell them what you need, guide them to help you get it. In return, you’ll listen to their needs, and help them get what they most desire. It literally takes the guesswork out of the relationship so you can hone in on what you each want. How else can you ever be satisfied? And I don’t just mean physically.
#2. Soften Your Position
This practice is about a different kind of listening: a focus on your partner. You’re familiar with your own point of view on any topic, but try putting your position aside for a moment, and consider what your partner may be experiencing. This allows for negotiation and compassion in your relationship—and can bring you closer to real love.
#3. Remember the Deep Sense of Play
The subconscious of a typical eight-year-old thrives on play. Think Tonkas and tutus and joy. A child isn’t focusing on anything but what’s in front of them. Somehow as we age, we trade our play for work and worries. However, adults need to play, too.
When you’re with your partner, or thinking about them, tap into your inner eight-year-old! Train your attention on what’s in front of you, and give yourself time without distractions (phones, thoughts of mortgage payments, projects at work, etc.) and do something completely playful.
Maybe you pitch an outdoor tent for movie night, turn on your favorite music and dance in your jammies, or paint your nails and take a bubble bath watching your favorite guilty pleasure. Just because you’re an adult doesn’t mean you have to buy a greeting card, get out some markers and color! Create some fun for yourself and your partner. Play keeps you playful!
Author of the book Subconscious Power: Use Your Inner Mind to Create the Life You’ve Always Wanted, Kimberly Friedmutter CHt is a certified hypnotherapist, a member at large of the prestigious UCLA Health System Board, the American Board of Hypnotherapy, the Association for Integrative Psychology, the American Board of Neurolinguistics Programing, and the International Hypnosis Federation.
Kimberly is currently in private practice, dividing her time between Nevada and California, serving high-performing clientele who share her philosophy: “Expect the exceptional.”
Discover more about the secrets to lasting relationships in SUBCONSCIOUS POWER by Kimberly Friedmutter!
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