It is not easy putting yourself in your beloved’s shoes. Show your partner you are on his team with these helpful hints. From What Makes Love Last? How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal: Secrets from the Love Lab.
When your partner is upset, be on his or her team whether the issue is trivial or significant. If you think your mate is overreacting or should have a “different” emotional response, stifle the urge to offer your opinion and suggestions. After years of studying couples who have maintained long and happy marriages, I can assure you that being the voice of reason is not always the best approach. Let other people play that role. Yours is to let the person you love know that you’re standing with him or her. You get and accept his or her emotions as valid—because all feelings are.