After a breakup, you need to heal. And the best way to do it is to put down the wine glass and start treating yourself the way you deserve. Stop crying about the past, and concentrate instead on giving yourself the future you’ve always wanted. It’s called Operation Be Mother-Effing Awesome, and you can read all about it in It’s Not Okay: Turning Heartbreak Into Happily Never After.
Step 1: The pity party is officially over! You’ve wallowed enough, drunk enough, cried enough, pouted enough, and pitied yourself enough. No more. You’ve had your hall pass long enough, it’s time to turn it back in. So box up the wine, throw away the remaining chocolate (if there’s any left), and do whatever else you need to do to wrap this party up. You can’t be the one who got away if you’re a train wreck.
Step 2: Kill him with kindness. Next time he sends you a rude text, you will either ignore it or kill him back with the sweetest words you can grudgingly muster up. It’s time to pretend to be the prim and proper sophisticated woman you were born to be.
Step 3: Refrain from talking shit to anyone and everyone. You have officially done all the shit talking there is to do to your family and closest friends. Your side of the story is out there. It has been heard probably to the point of exhaustion. It’s the end now. If someone asks you what he’s really like or what went wrong in your relationship, you will respond with only positivity and a screwed-on smile. You can do it, I know you can!
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