When we talk about soul mates, most of us think of romance—the person who’s our destined, true love. Yet from a spiritual perspective, soul mates aren’t just romantic, and we don’t have just one. Sara Wiseman, award-winning author of MESSAGES FROM THE DIVINE: WISDOM FOR THE SEEKER’S SOUL, shares a new way to look at soul mate relationships.
Each of us will meet hundreds, even thousands of soul mates in a lifetime. That’s because our soul mates include anyone we’re here to work on soul lessons, aka karma, with.
That means your soul mate could be a romantic partner—but they could just as easily be a family member, a friend, a colleague—even that “random” person you sit by on the bus!
So, how do you know you’ve met a soul mate? There are three things to look for, and they all have to do with the soul lessons you’re learning together.
How to know you’ve met a soul mate
Our soul mate relationships are based on working through our karma together—the soul lessons we’re here to work on in this lifetime.
When you meet a soul mate, you’ll immediately know it. There’s an immediate sense of recognition. People who have met their soul mates often describe this kind of soul recognition as a deep familiarity, a sense that they already knew the person, and if the relationship is positive, of “coming home.”
And then, there’s the energy! The Universe let’s us know when we’re meeting a soul mate in the form of visible energy such as white flashes, seeing stars and auras. When the relationship is romantic, we’ll also have physical responses such as wooziness, heart pounding, and the classic “weak in the knees” feeling.
3 ways we work with soul mates
There are 3 ways soul mates work together, all based on the types of soul lessons we’re here to learn together.
- When we have neutral karma. When we don’t have a lot of karma with someone, i.e. when we don’t have big soul lessons to learn together, we connect and then separate very quickly. There’s no big karma to hold us together. This might be the example of someone we date once, but it doesn’t go anywhere, or a colleague you don’t have much connection with. There’s no soul lesson to work on—so there’s no staying power.
- When we have sticky karma. In relationships that are “sticky”, we find ourselves working on negative soul lessons together, including issues like control, betrayal, addiction, abuse, anger, and abandonment. These are complex soul lessons that usually take more than one lifetime to work out.
In these cases, souls come together and work as hard as they can. But at a certain point, they’ll realize they can’t progress any further together. They’ve reached an impasse, or they’ve reached the limit of how far they can go.
Soul mates separate when they have learned the lessons they were destined to learn together—or when they realize they can’t get any further together. When this happens—when you’ve done all the work you can do in a particular relationship—it also means that once your karmic crossing is complete.
In other words, once you’ve completed the soul lessons you’ve been put together to learn—or you realize you can’t get any further—then the relationship is also complete. You’re ready to move forward and learn new lessons, with another partner.
- When we have supportive karma. When we look at relationships that are positive and long-lasting, the souls will have agreed to work together on soul lessons that are beneficial and expanding, such as trust, love, openness, transparency, intimacy, vulnerability, patience and selflessness.
There is no limit to how far soul mates can go when the are in support of each other! This is why these kinds of positive karmic relationships are the ones that last a lifetime—and often many lifetimes.
When you look at soul mates based on the type of karma you share together: neutral, sticky or supportive—you can determine how much time and effort you want to invest in a relationship.
In neutral relationships, you won’t find the need to connect at a deep level. In sticky relationship, you’ll feel compelled to work together until you aren’t making progress any longer. In supportive relationships, you can work together for your entire life—and for many lifetimes to come.
Can you have more than one soul mate? Find out here.