Andrea Miller is the founder and CEO of YourTango, the leading digital media company dedicated to love and relationships, whose mission is to help people love better and connect more meaningfully. Andrea earned a degree in mechanical engineering from Tulane University and an MBA from Columbia Business School. She has a private pilot's license; a black belt in Shotokan karate, awarded by the Japan Karate Association; and serves as a trustee of New York Theatre Workshop. Andrea lives in New York City with her husband and two boys.
Radical Acceptance: The Secret to Happy, Lasting Love
This leads me to my second point. Making this decision comes down to trust. You must trust yourself, and you must trust him. I have written this book to help you understand yourself and your relationship better, and to more confidently make crucial decisions about your life. By reading others’ stories and taking these insights to heart, you’ll have a strong framework for objectively assessing your relationship. The rest is up to you. No one can or should make the decision for you.
And, finally point number three: the decision to make a definitive yes should energize you. If you feel fatigued or disappointed, then you probably should say no. Say it decisively. Being in limbo is no-man’s-land. It’s a dangerous place to be in a relationship.