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Attract Your Soul Mate with This Ritual

relationshipTrust us, we know it’s not easy letting go of the past. You’ve likely spent a lot of time and energy on an ex, and you might not have gotten to closure you needed and deserved. It’s time to reclaim your life and move on. That may be easier said than done, but Asa Soltan, author of GOLDEN, shares how to let go of the past and welcome your soul mate into your life.

Soul Mate Ritual 1—Letting Go of the Past

You’ll need: journal or paper, pen, candle, metal tray

Time allotted: 30 minutes, just once—more as needed!

No matter how old you are or how many relationships you’ve been in, baggage from past relationships may be holding you back from your soul mate. The same thing holds true even if you’re in a relationship. This baggage might be keeping you from sharing true happiness with your beloved. It’s time to stop aligning yourself with damaged energy of the past. Whatever happened in the past helped you become the fierce lover you are today.

It’s hard to see this sometimes. A relationship ends, and we put on damaged emotional weight that keeps good energy away. We attract more and more negative energy, and eventually we grow bitter. That’s the kiss of death when it comes to attracting your soul mate. You can’t fill yourself up with love and fulfillment if you’re already full of insecurity, fear, and baggage. Just like you did during the Priestess Detox, it’s time to empty your vessel so you can fill it back up with positivity.

Each of us has two voices—the one that we speak with out of our mouths and the one we speak to the universe with through our energy. You may tell your friends that you are ready for a new relationship, but if you’re still thinking about what your old boyfriend did to you, you’re telling the universe the exact opposite truth. This inconsistency will keep your soul mate away. It’s crucial to balance these two voices and get your energy as ready as your mind for your soul mate. That’s what this ritual will help you do.

Gather your things and go to your soul mate altar. Take a few deep breaths and shake out your body. Then light your candle. Close your eyes and take a moment to think about your past relationships. If you’ve had several serious relationships, think about them one by one. As you think about them, let all of your regrets about these relationships come up in your mind. They will probably come in the form of all the ways you think you’ve failed. I was too selfish. I was too clingy. I was too critical. Just let these thoughts appear and observe them. A lot will come up at first, and then they’ll slowly start to dissipate.

Once your mind has calmed down, open your eyes. On your paper or in your journal, write down all of the things you did to keep the relationship from flourishing. It doesn’t matter if these things actually caused the relationship to end or not. They are the things you are holding on to, the sources of guilt and regret that are blocking you from fully moving on.

As you write each one down, offer it to the fire. Yes, I mean that literally. Burn the piece of paper in the flame of the candle. Even burning it just a little bit on the end will do. If you aren’t comfortable burning things, imagine yourself offering all of your failures to a fire. One by one let them catch fire and go up in flames. Really see the paper burning in your mind until nothing is left of it.

When you are done offering your failures to the fire (either literally or metaphorically), close your eyes and take a moment to feel the difference in your body. Those failures are gone now. They are not a part of you anymore and cannot affect your relationship with yourself or your soul mate.

If you complete this ritual and still feel like there is baggage from the past weighing you down, repeat the self-mythology ritual on page 36. It’s possible that you are holding yourself back not because you blame yourself or your failures, but because you are blaming your former partner’s failures.

Remember, you are not a victim in this life. You are in control. No one has the power to stop you from getting everything in this world that is yours, especially your soul mate. When you take your life into your own hands, you will create the space for him or her to enter.

If you are in a relationship now, it’s important to do a second step to this ritual, which is offering to the fire all of the ways you’ve failed in your current relationship. Are you taking your boyfriend or husband for granted? Are you too stubborn or selfish? Or do you flirt with that cute coworker in a way you know your man wouldn’t like?

Close your eyes again and let these thoughts come up. None of us is perfect. We all make mistakes in every single one of our relationships. The important thing is to let them go before they overpower the things you’re doing right. Write down each of the ways you’ve failed in your current relationship and offer them to the fire. They are not a part of this relationship anymore. You are free to move on without the burden of guilt about anything you’ve done wrong.

There’s more to know about attracting your soul mate… To learn the secrets to Soul Mate Ritual 2 (Express Gratitude for the Future), grab a copy of GOLDEN by Asa Soltan.


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Excerpted from Golden by Asa Soltan. Copyright © 2017 by Asa Soltan. Used by permission of the publisher. All rights reserved.


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