Looking for love this season? Join the club. This is the time of year when thoughts turn to dating and mating for all the single folks among us. Should you text? Shouldn’t you text? After listening to your intuition, grab a seat by the pool and meditate on your crush with these books.
Just think, this time next year, you could be sipping rosé with your beau, laughing about old times.
How to Fall in Love with Anyone: A Memoir in Essays
An insightful, charming, and absolutely fascinating memoir from the author of the popular New York Times essay, “To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This,” (one of the top five most popular New York Times pieces of 2015) explores the romantic myths we create and explains how they limit our ability to achieve and sustain intimacy. What really makes love last? Does love ever work the way we say it does in movies and books and Facebook posts? Or does obsessing over those love stories hurt our real-life relationships? When her parents divorced after a twenty-eight year marriage and her own ten-year relationship ended, those were the questions that Mandy Len Catron wanted to answer. In a series of candid, vulnerable, and wise essays that takes a closer look at what it means to love someone, be loved, and how we present our love to the world, Catron deconstructs her own personal canon of love stories.
121 First Dates
by Wendy Newman
Based on years of research and 121 real-life first dates, relationship expert Wendy Newman dishes up practical wisdom for navigating the online dating trenches with grace, efficiency, and a strong dose of humor. Wendy Newman has made every imaginable dating mistake so you don’t have to.
I Had a Nice Time And Other Lies…: How to Find Love & Sh*t Like That
by The Betches
The New York Times bestselling authors of Nice Is Just a Place in France and creators of the online humor and advice phenomenon Betches.com and Instagram account @Betches return to explain the brutal truths of how to date like a true betch, with insights from the Head Pro. In the age of Tinder, Hinge, or any other dating app that matches you with randos, the dating game has grown complex and confusing. Cue the Betches—first, we helped you win at basically everything, and now we’re going to help you win the most important battle a betch can face: dating. Maybe you’re a Delusional Dater who needs to get in touch with reality (seriously, he’s just NOT that f***ing into you) or perhaps you’re a TGF who needs to stop being so desperate and start playing the game. Or maybe you’re just tired of swiping left and ready for the pro of your dreams to put a 15-karat diamond ring on it so you can stop pretending to do work. Either way, we’ve got you covered. So put away the Ben & Jerry’s fro-yo (just because it’s low fat doesn’t mean it’s okay to eat the whole tub) and start dating like a winner.
It’s Not Okay: Turning Heartbreak into Happily Never After
by Andi Dorfman
Andi Dorfman, the beloved finalist of season eighteen of
This Modern Love
In the tradition of Post Secret and Other People’s Love Letters, a crowdsourced compilation of letters, stories, and art work about the modern state of love and relationships, edited by rising filmmaker and beloved YouTube vlogger Will Darbyshire. “What would you say to your ex, without judgment?” This is the question filmmaker and vlogger Will Darbyshire posed to hundreds of thousands of his closest friends on YouTube. Seeking closure after a tough break-up, Will was driven to strike up an intimate conversation with his online audience, and to get at the heart of one of life’s unknowable yet universal mysteries: love. Over a period of six months, Will posed a series of questions to his audience and asked them to reveal their innermost feelings about their own romantic experiences in the form of hand-written letters, poems, photographs, and emails. The result is a curated collection of responses that are, at turns, funny, dark, confessional, awkward, comforting, and uplifting. This Modern Love is a compelling portrait of individual desires, fantasies, resentments, and fears that reminds us that, whether we’re in or out of love, we’re not alone.
I Know What I’m Doing — and Other Lies I Tell Myself
by Jen Kirkman
In I Know What I’m Doing—and Other Lies I Tell Myself, Jen offers up all the gory details of a life permanently in progress. She reassures you that it’s okay to not have life completely figured out, even when you reach middle age (and find your first gray pubic hair!). She talks about making unusual or unpopular life decisions (such as cultivating a “friend with benefits” or not going home for the holidays) because you don’t necessarily want for yourself what everyone else seems to think you should. It’s about renting when everyone says you should own, dating around when everyone thinks you should settle down, and traveling alone when everyone pities you for going to Paris without a man. From marriage to divorce and sex to mental health, I Know What I’m Doing—and Other Lies I Tell Myself is about embracing the fact that life is a bit of a sh*t show and it’s definitely more than okay to stay true to yourself.
I Suck at Relationships So You Don’t Have To
Bethenny Frankel, five-time New York Times bestselling author, self-made businesswoman, and media maven, shares her ten rules for relationship success and takes us on an empowering journey to learn how to say yes to love.From running her Skinnygirl business to being a mom and a TV star, Bethenny Frankel appears to have it all. But when it comes to relationships, she is the first to admit that she has failed—a lot. In fact, Bethenny has made every mistake, from calling when she shouldn’t have to misreading signals to staying with a guy for all the wrong reasons. In working through the mistakes, she has gained insight and wisdom about what matters most. Filled with personal stories and the no-nonsense advice she’s known for, New York Times bestseller I Suck at Relationships So You Don’t Have To is the next step on Bethenny’s A Place of Yes journey. She offers an unflinching but ultimately hopeful look at what it takes to find real love including tips on dating, how to trust your gut, avoiding self-sabotage, and much more. It’s easy to give up on romance, to expect the worst, and to doubt yourself, but you shouldn’t be satisfied with a relationship that is mediocre—your relationship can and should be incredible. Using Bethenny’s “A Place of Yes” attitude, you too can find love and a relationship that is more successful, fulfilling, and happier than ever before.
Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl – A Woman’s Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship
Do you feel like you are too nice? Sherry Argov’s Why Men Love Bitches delivers a unique perspective as to why men are attracted to a strong woman who stands up for herself. With saucy detail on every page, this no-nonsense guide reveals why a strong woman is much more desirable than a “yes woman” who routinely sacrifices herself.
In Modern Romance, Aziz Ansari combines his irreverent humor with cutting-edge social science to give us an unforgettable tour of our new romantic world. He teamed up with NYU sociologist Eric Klinenberg and designed a massive research project, including hundreds of interviews and focus groups conducted everywhere from Tokyo to Buenos Aires to Wichita. They analyzed behavioral data and surveys and created their own online research forum on Reddit, which drew thousands of messages. They enlisted the world’s leading social scientists, including Andrew Cherlin, Eli Finkel, Helen Fisher, Sheena Iyengar, Barry Schwartz, Sherry Turkle, and Robb Willer. The result is unlike any social science or humor book we’ve seen before.
This Is Why You’re Single
Whether you’re falling for that man child for the fifty-seventh time or text messaging your way to stalker status, dating can make you want to find a nice roomy hermitage on Airbnb and live a solitary, monk-like life. Luckily, that frustration ends now. This Is Why You’re Single breaks away from your typical dating guide by taking a page from Aesop’s playbook with hilarious modern-day dating fables paired with advice, entertaining quizzes, graphs, and illustrations. Dating will feel a whole lot more doable, a little less weird, and, well, actually pretty fun.