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How Do I Know if My Child is Taking Drugs?

2 Comments 07 February 2011

Addiction_400Teenagers using drugs will try to hide the evidence from you, but if you know the tell-tale signs, their secret won’t be safe for long. In How to Raise a Drug-Free Kid, author Joseph A. Califano, Jr., shows you how to recognize the warning signs.

Teenagers using drugs will try to hide the evidence from you. But if you know the tell-tale signs, their secret won’t be secret very long. Ask yourself questions like these:

• Is your child trying to cover up smells on his or her breath or in his or her room?
• Are controlled prescription drugs missing from your medicine cabinet?
• Is your child using eye drops to clear red

Here are some of the general symptoms that may reveal current drug use:

• Excessive talking, rapid or slurred speech
• Bizarre or paranoid comments
• Excessive forgetfulness
• Difficulty expressing thoughts
• Lack of coordination, poor balance, tipsy walking
• Spaciness, inability to concentrate or follow a conversation
• Bloodshot eyes
• Dilated or very small pupils
• Excessive sweating, jitters, and jumpiness
• Nodding off (eyes closing, head falling forward)
• Nosebleeds, excessively rubbing or wiping the nose
• Constantly popping breath mints, chewing gum, or drinking a flavored drink immediately before talking to you (to cover the smell of alcohol or smoke)
• Missing prescription drugs like OxyContin or Xanax
• Possession of drug paraphernalia such as tin foil, rolling papers, pipes, straws, plastic bags
• Increased accumulation of inhalable products such as glue, hairspray, or nail polish
• Increased accumulation of over-the-counter cold medicine
• Use of incense, room deodorant, or perfumes to hide smoke or chemical odors on clothing or in a room

What to Do if You See the Siren Signals
Early intervention is a potent prevention tool. By being alert to signals that your child may be drinking and using drugs, you can stop the behavior in its early stages. Ending the behavior early significantly reduces the risk that your child’s use will lead to harm — an accident, poor school performance, legal problems, brain damage, or addiction.

You are your child’s first line of defense. You are uniquely positioned to detect the early signs of drug use. You have the Parent Power and motivation to do something about it.

Think about it. If your son’s friends knew that he was smoking pot, would you want to rely on them to tell you? That makes you the best — and perhaps only — chance your child has that someone will intervene and help stop the behavior.

As a parent, you’ve known your child intimately since birth. You can judge when something is going wrong in your child’s life. If you see some of the Siren Signals, or are otherwise worried or suspicious that your child may be smoking, drinking, or using other drugs, there are several steps you can take.

You might start by engaging your inner Sherlock Holmes and investigating the matter further. Ask your child specific questions about this or her activities, friends, and spending habits, and observe your child’s response and behavior. The information you collect may confirm or dispel your suspicions.

Follow your intuition if you think there is a problem; your kids may be inclined to lie about their drinking or drug use. Ask probing questions if the things your child tells you don’t add up, but be open to the possibility that drugs aren’t the root of the problem.

Some suspicious parents choose to search their child’s room or possessions, or require their child to take a drug test. As a suspicious parent, you have a right — and it is your job — to search your child’s room. A search may turn up evidence of drugs, but if it doesn’t, you still can’t be sure that your child isn’t using. If you conduct a search without your child’s permission, your child will likely be angry and will conclude that you don’t trust him or her. Tell your child that it is your responsibility to take actions that enable you to protect him and help him lead a healthy, drug-free life; that this is not a matter of not trusting, but of verifying that he is safe and drug free.

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Joseph A. Califano

Joseph A. Califano, Jr., is the founder of The National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University (CASAColumbia). He served as US Secretary of Health, Education, and Welfare and has written several books. He lives in Westport, Connecticut. Visit CasaColumbia.org.

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    Try spying on your child’s mobile. If he/she takes drugs then they will talk on the phone with the drug dealer. If your child is over smart then perhaps he/she will not talk about drugs on the phone. Yes but i know about a mobile spy software, which provides the feature of call recording. Once you have installed the spy software in his/her cell phone then whenever your child goes out. Just enable the record surrounding. Whatever he/she will be talking, records on the member’s area. StealthGenie also has multiple features. In my opinion, it can help thousands of parents crying to save their children from drugs addiction.

  • wh0709

    The most easy why to find your kids taking drugs is using urine test strips. it is cheap and easy.
    http://stores.ebay.com/urdiagnostic

 

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