Learn how to use body heat telepathy to turn any romantic relationship around in your favor. From How to Rule the World From Your Couch by bestselling author Laura Day.
Using Body Heat in an Existing Romantic Relationship
To use your body heat in an existing relationship you need to experience the other person as unconnected to you. You may want to place him in your mind’s eye, somewhere in front of you at a distance. You need to imagine that you are not connected to the person in any way. Consider him a stranger, someone new to discover. Before we move to the next step, you need to reassure yourself of your ability to create change in the relationship. Some of what you intuitively pick up (in fact, probably most of it) will stir a reaction in you. You want to stay away from your reactions, which originate in your old connection to this person and how you think you want him to experience you and life with you. In short, try to be aware of how you tend to react to disturbing information and find something — a thought, an activity, a deep breath, anything — to short-circuit that reaction.
You then embody your state of wholeheartedness. I warn you not to wander into step two of this exercise until you are firmly rooted in step one.
Now, allow your senses to extend into the other person. Find where he holds his current structure of love and desire. What is he longing for? What motivates him? Take time to allow the information to flow toward you. Keep your position of distance, even distanced from the information. Be close enough to register it but not close enough to react to it. You may get a flood of information or just a few bits, like “He wants someone who finds him funny” or “He doesn’t want anything to change at all.” Be careful that paranoia doesn’t step in disguised as intuition to tell you, “He’s fooling around” or “He doesn’t love me anymore.”
Usually what you are afraid to find is not intuitive information but some kind of emotional projection. The same thing goes for what you know you want to find. You should be careful of both wishes and fears when you are performing body heat telepathy. You intuitively know what most of these are. Put them aside, as they will not help you achieve your goal. As you do this you will get very detailed information about the parts of you that need to be strengthened in this relationship and those that need to be tempered. Perhaps you will need to work through a part of yourself that you are afraid of and have kept hidden for years. Many new possibilities for change will emerge, and you will have the opportunity to use them for transformation, not only for the relationship, but even more important, for yourself.
Okay, now what about your goals? You may first want to do some exploratory telepathy to gauge your reactions and interest and clarify what it is you really want. If you are not getting what you really want in a relationship where you once did, chances are that there is also a part of you that is conflicted as to whether or not you want this person or like who he has become. Even if your conscious feeling is one of wanting to hold on, start to listen more carefully to the part of you that may not want to but is doing so out of fear or inner injury. It is important to sort this out before you start the process of body heat. Much of the process of body heat and telepathy may have been clarified for you in the first part of this chapter. Some of you may not understand right away, and instead, an understanding will evolve over time and your changes in behavior and attention will guide you. Notice what you are doing, thinking, feeling. As you receive some information and are able to shift internally, you will get more information and, in turn, make more shifts. Sometimes you don’t know where you will end up. Know that you will be safe because you are consciously directing this evolution toward a wholehearted relationship and a self-healed heart.
Eventually your goal will become clear. You may use body heat to put passion back into a relationship or to express needs and motivate behaviors in the other person, with whom you have been unsuccessful in achieving traditional dialogue or actions. When your goal is clear, your body heat telepathy will be its most effective, as you will be using all of your intention and energy in a single direction.
I remember a student who made a love wish for someone new because her current relationship was not working out. She did the healing and the body heat telepathy and was surprised to find that it was not someone new that came into her life but the old relationship now healed. She then shifted her body heat to continue to create the relationship she wanted with this man, day to day, moving forward. As I said earlier, we are all always changing, and the ability to be responsive to change as well as become the catalyst for change is key to a vibrant relationship — in fact, to a vibrant and joyful life.
The best time to body-heat someone close to you is, oddly, not when you are with them physically. In their presence the best use of your senses is to engage fully with the other person in an interactive, immediate way. The best time to use body heat is in moments of wholeness and calm.
You will find that your body heat telepathy with your partner will allow you to make subtle changes that both of you respond to in a positive way. A warning about body heat and your partner: you are already deeply enmeshed with your partner in a way that you would not be with a person you haven’t yet met or shared time with. In all relationships there are some areas where you project things onto the other partner that are really more about you. It is a bit like two different-color threads being woven into the same carpet so tightly that it is hard to see which thread is which. Extra time and attention needs to be given to your own internal changes as you body-heat an existing relationship. In most relationships, especially marriages, each person wants to have a relationship with the person they are married to, but not the kind of relationship they are currently having, which is starving them, depressing them, or limiting them in some other way. It is not the person who is wrong, but what the relationship has become. This can often be healed through body heat telepathy.
How do you know the relationship is being healed? Because as you will see, it will begin to improve and stay on that path of positive evolution. There are, of course, always bumps; but the key is to look at the sum total of, say, a month, and then be able to say, “Yes, we are in a much better place as a couple than we were a month ago.”
When a partner doesn’t change, it can mean one of a few things: he won’t, he is not ready to, or simply he cannot evolve. If the latter is true, chances are that your own work on yourself will have already given you lots of information and healing guidance to help you accept a “can’t” from your partner. Your body heat telepathy has already begun to bring love and healing into your life. If and when your partner is ready, he will respond to it, too, if the match is right for you. If not, it will help you attract the love and support to leave.
In any situation, body heat telepathy engages both you and your target toward awareness and change. In a sense, you are always experiencing it with someone, not performing it on someone. You get more engaged with the person as you create the conditions for him to become more engaged with you. You do not want to perform body heat on someone whom you are trying to leave. All it does then is muddy the waters.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Laura Day, author of How to Rule the World From Your Couch (Copyright © 2009 by Laura Day), is the New York Times bestselling author of Practical Intuition and has spent over two decades helping companies as well as individuals use the power of intuition to create their dreams. Her global clientele includes celebrities, scientists, business executives, and other professionals. She speaks regularly both here and abroad.
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woow!! This is so true. I personaly like reading these kind of books, meaning love and romance. Im not much of a reader but ever scince i first read ‘he’s just not that into you’ I started reading non stop. I like your book and ima keep reading them, keep them coming! :)