How you feel about your marriage can affect your desire, from The Sex-Starved Marriage: Boosting Your Marriage Libido by Michele Weiner Davis
In order to feel turned on, most people need to feel good about their marriage. If you’re upset with your spouse for any number of reasons, your desire will probably wane. Anger, resentment, disappointment, hurt, or betrayal dampen most people’s desire. Here are some questions to ask yourself about your marriage.
- Do you find yourself frequently rehashing (in your own mind or out loud) your spouse’s hurtful action?
- Do you try to address troublesome issues but feel that your spouse shuts you out?
- Do you often feel your spouse is very unsupportive of you and your feelings?
- Do you see your spouse as controlling or critical much of the time, and does this anger you?
- Do your spouse’s actions frequently disappoint you but you keep them to yourself?
If you answer yes to any of these questions, negative feelings are probably holding you back from wanting to be closer to your spouse. You will need to address the issues bothering you.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Michele Weiner Davis is the author of The Sex-Starved Marriage (Copyright © 2003 by Michele Weiner Davis), The Sex-Starved Wife, The Divorce Remedy, Change Your Life and Everyone in It, and several other books. She is a regular guest of The Oprah Winfrey Show, 48 Hours, 20/20, Today, and CBS This Morning. An internationally renowned seminar leader and marriage therapist in private practice, she lives with her family in Illinois.
MORE ARTICLES BY THE AUTHOR
- How to Agree to Disagree in Your Relationship
- How to Get Through to Your Spouse
- A Smarter Way to Light Your Spouse’s Fire
- What’s the Sex-Starved Wife to Do?: 7 Ways to Lure Your Husband Back Into the Bedroom
LEARN MORE
- Read Chapter 1 of The Sex Starved Marriage: Boosting Your Marriage Libido: A Couple’s Guide
- See more books by Michele Weiner Davis
